Many of the questions that have come up recently around attachment to your therapist boil down to the very intense issues that arise in the relationship between the therapist and the inner child. In...
Dr. Smith's Latest Articles
Why is “Adulting” so Hard?
I’ve been thinking about my patients of all ages who are having trouble becoming fully adult. What is surprising is how strongly their inner mind resists saying goodbye to parenting that never...
New Additions to the Bookstore
First, I am proud to announce the release of my new textbook for therapists, Psychotherapy: A Practical Guide. Most of today’s therapists don’t want to be disciples of a single school...
Failure to Launch: Affect Avoidance on...
I want to talk about the difficulty for young adults of launching into adult life and how it relates to affect avoidance, but first, let me focus on the topic of affect avoidance in general. (Photo:...
Valuing the Inner Child
Since 2005 when my blog began, by far the most popular topic has been attachment to your therapist. The many poignant comments to those posts show how wrenching the experience can be. They also show...
Addiction
Alcoholism and Drug Addiction
Alcoholism and other addictions are baffling for everyone. People who suffer from them think they...
Do We Have Free Will?
I read something recently suggesting that most of our decisions are made outside of consciousness...
Relationships
Mindfulness
Working With the Inner Child
Many of the questions that have come up recently around attachment to your therapist boil down to...
A Guide to Personal Change
Dear Readers, my new book, How We Heal and Grow: The Power of Facing Your Feelings is available...